Losing a loved one is hard enough but losing your co-parent will cause a huge amount of grief to you and your kids. Losing a partner and the parent of your children, will definitely put you in position of compromise. In such a situation, most often you will be left wondering what the next move you need to take is! Especially, with kids, big or small it is going to be an impossible task!
Breaking the news to the kids
The toughest task will undeniably be that of telling the kids about the loss. You, yourself would find it difficult to process the loss. So, you can imagine the reaction of the kids. They are not going to take it easy. So you need to first prepare their mentality before telling them the truth. That will help them to process the loss. You can start by telling them that you are going to tell them a bad news and that it is a great loss which will never be filled. You can also request them to be helpful to you in this difficult situation and help you with the future proceedings.
Next, you need to ensure that you don’t lose it either! You need to busy yourself with the guests and all the impending work. Not thinking too much about the loss will help you deviate your mind. But do keep in mind that is okay to mourn the death of a loved one. So you need to maintain a balance between the two. From planning on the cemetery stones to almost everything will need to be done by you. So you need to stay focussed.
Helping the kids digest the loss
Once you have delivered the news of the loss to the kids successfully, you need to ensure that the kids are able to cope with it. If there are siblings, then the kids might be able to cope better. But if it is a single child, you may need to pay extra attention and help them grieve, as they wouldn’t have anyone who would be able to relate to their loss better than you! So, make sure that you are always there for your kids. Help them open up to you. Not just immediately after their coming to know of the loss. But even years after the loss. And if you do have a ceremony of memorial Melbourne don’t forget to include the kids’ speech if they want to give one!
Finally, keep in mind that if you or your kids suffer with being unable to cope with the loss in the right manner, then you will need to get professional help. Especially for the kids, you may need to get professional attention. If your kid(s) are behaving in suspicious manner, don’t hesitate in taking them to a therapist. It will definitely do them good!